My grandfather died this morning around five thirty a.m. after surviving for two days without life support (he was expected to survive for mere hours). He was the most selfless man, always caring about everyone else even if he was suffering. Through the last one and a half years of his life, he suffered of kidney failure, yet he was always so kind and generous, wanting to help, and making sure that my sister and I -- and the rest of the family -- were always okay.
He has lived with my sister and me for every day of our lives except for a span of about seven months. It was such a long time, but I am so grateful for every moment of it -- he was the greatest grandfather anyone could hope for. He was always worrying about us two, feeding us, taking us on walks...I have such good memories of him playing with us and being the most patient man in the world. As everyone does when a loved one dies, I wish he had stayed around longer, had not been plagued by the failure of one of the most valuable organs (he had never been to a doctor before his kidney failed), and had continued to be the amazing, brilliant person he was for so much longer.
But when anyone comes into this world, we know that person must die eventually. I just wish that the time for my grandfather hadn't come so soon; but I know it wasn't in my hands, and though his death feels like a huge gaping hole in the house, I'm glad I spent more time with him the last month or so of his life and that his endless suffering is finally over. Near the end of his life he had been begging God to let him go; I'm also glad that his wish has finally come true, and that he got to fill himself on happiness, sunshine, and sweets during his last days (he had a blast despite his chronic pains). He's gone now and the only thing we can do is move forward, holding him dear to our hearts like we have always done.
in loving memory of
February 10, 1928 - May 7, 2009
He was larger-than-life and I am extremely blessed to have gotten to know him and spend time with him and have him as my grandfather.